Extraordinary woman of the week – Shelley Seale

Posted by Adalia John on 2 February, 2010

Whitney Houston’s hit song “Greatest Love of All”  has timeless lyrics regarding children -  lyrics that touch your soul and inspire you to nurture the children of the world. My EXTRAordinary Woman of the week, Shelley Seale has been involved in non profit work and social activism almost all of her life – particularly around child advocacy. Through her book , and her work – she has contributed to bringing attention  -  to the plight of  some of India’s children.

Meet Shelley Seale, writer, dreamer, child advocate and EXTRAordinary woman of the week.


1. Shamelessly plug yourself and your business /services

I’m a professional freelance writer, editor and graphic designer based out of cool and creative Austin, Texas. When not there, I am usually off vagabonding in any part of the world whenever possible. My mantra is “travel with a purpose.”

I recently completed a nonfiction book, The Weight of Silence: Invisible Children of India which was published by Dogs Eye View Media in June, 2009. This nonfiction book is a story straight from today’s headlines – the true, written version that Slumdog Millionaire portrayed on film. It follows my journeys through India and tells the stories of some of the 25 million children living without parents in India, on the streets or in orphanages; and the inspiring people who are helping to uphold their rights, one child at a time.

2. How long have you been a writer?

I have been writing for as long as I can remember! Freelancing full time for about five years now.

3. What motivated you to become an entrepreneur?

I think I have some sort of entrepreneurial bug in me. Maybe it stems from just being really independent and liking to do my own thing, I don’t know. I’ve always been an entrepreneur; even in my previous career incarnation, before I started writing full time, I was in real estate for 15 years and I started two different firms. I have started and owned several ventures during my lifetime.

4. What has been a defining moment in your life or an AHA moment?

Oprah Winfrey shares a defining moment in her life when she was in the third grade – the day her book report earned her teacher’s praise- it made her classmates whisper, “She thinks she is so smart.” She says for too many years after that, her biggest fear was that others would see her as arrogant. “The last thing I wanted was for my actions to make me appear conceited. Full of myself,: she remembers.

I don’t remember the exact incident, but I know it was the first time that anyone ever read something that I wrote and said, “That is good!” With writing, you really put yourself out there personally – often your thoughts, your feelings, your human experience, your soul. It’s a very vulnerable place to be sometimes, and to know that other people can relate to it, that something you wrote really resonates with someone else – that is a real a-ha moment, and something that makes it all worthwhile and keeps you going.

5. What has been your biggest challenge?

How hard it is to get work and get published sometimes, and how easy it is to constantly keep working to do so. Writing is all-consuming. Although I would be miserable in a regular 9-to-5 job, I sometimes envy those who can go home and leave their work behind at the end of the day.

6. What has been your greatest reward?

Doing what I love to do – what doesn’t feel like work to me.

From a very early age, my grandparents and parents always inspired me. I have the most wonderful, close, loving family who have always supported me unconditionally. It’s an amazing gift, which is why it breaks my heart to see other children go through life without that. While writing the book, there were so many people along the way who inspired me and have become my heroes. Caroline Boudreaux was the first one – this woman gave up a very successful television advertising career after meeting a group of orphans, by chance, on one evening – and dedicated the rest of her life to supporting them and ensuring their fundamental rights. Dr. Manjeet Pardesi, her Director of Operations in India, has a similar story – he left behind a successful accounting business in Delhi to open and run an orphanage and home for unwed mothers hundreds of miles away.

7. What limiting belief about money did you let go of-  on your entrepreneurial journey.

That money (or material things) were intrinsically entwined with happiness. Yes, money can make your life easier and reduces stress that comes from not having it, and struggling. But once you have the basics, the idea that more is always better is hugely limiting. In fact, it can have the opposite effect on happiness. I could make a lot more money if I had a corporate job – but I wouldn’t be nearly as happy. Doing what I love, day in and day out, being able to truly follow my passion and integrate who I am with what I do, is the most important aspect of happiness to me. If I can get paid enough doing that to live a simple lifestyle, to pay my bills and have a few little comforts, I am so much happier than doing something I hate, but getting paid a lot more. Often times, when we are in that vicious cycle, we NEED that extra money in order to buy things to try and make ourselves feel better about the fact that we’re miserable.

8. What do you do on a regular basis for a healthy/strong mind,body and spirit connection?

I do a lot of yoga, about 3 or 4 times a week, as well as a few dance and pilates classes as well. I also try to eat very healthy, organic and locally grown food as much as possible. It really makes a difference in how I feel.

8. Is there something you want to share that was not asked?

I would like people to know that even though the topic is serious and the stories often heartbreaking, it is not a depressing book or subject! These kids, and their stories, are incredible and awe-inspiring, hopeful and inspirational. In my journeys over the last three years into the orphanages, slums, clinics and streets of India I have become immersed in dozens of children’s lives. Their hope and resilience amazed me time and time again; the ability of their spirits to overcome crippling challenges inspired me. Even in the most deprived circumstances they are still kids – they laugh and play, they develop strong bonds and relationships to create family where none exists; and most of all they have an enormous amount of love to give. The issues are tough, what has happened to a lot of these kids makes you want to cry – but the bottom line of their stories is a very strong, hopeful voice.

You can connect with Shelley at the links below.

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Shelley Seale

mail@shelleyseale.com

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Shelley, I want to thank you for sharing your heart felt  information with my readers and me.  I hope someone will be inspired to take action for their own cause.

I wish you success with your cause -  bettering the lives of  our children.

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Resolve to Evolve

Posted by Adalia John on 27 January, 2010

After reading an article by James E Rouse, ND of optimum wellness, I had a shift in my thinking regarding resolutions.  He suggested that we should focus on what we want more of,  instead of what we want to “fix.” What a concept!

My friend, Anne,  has been living  in her new town home for approximately ten months and was always complaining about what she did not like.  Her favorite complaint – that her town home was like a cage – there was no view – there was nothing to look at except her neighbors’ front doors.

I visited Anne a few weeks ago and she showed me her beautiful home. The last stop on the tour was her bedroom. The curtains were drawn – I drew the curtains back and I was amazed to see the most beautiful moon light sky. I called Anne and showed her the night sky and she stood there in amazement – granted she had not lived very long in the town home and most nights she came home very late but Anne did what so many of us do – we become so transfixed by what we do not have, we overlook, what we already have.

Lets “resolve to evolve.” Give thanks for your triumphs, be they great or small. Don’t be like my friend Anne – looking at life through dissatisfied lens. What do you want more of in your life? Instead of losing weight, focus on being fit. Give more value to your customers/clients and more money will come. Love your self, give love and love will come to you.

Shift your thinking and make a list of the things you want more of, not the things you want to fix. Celebrate your life and resolve to evolve!!!

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Thought Stimulator: Before you can like and love another, you must like and love yourself. ~ Eileen Lebowitz

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Extraordinary Woman of the Week – Candi Wingate

Posted by Adalia John on 25 January, 2010

Pit Stop Day

Mothers ( mom entrepreneurs or those working 9 to 5)  have numerous challenges as they attempt to juggle their personal and professional lives. One of the most important and critical issue – is the issue of quality childcare.  Whether it’s the occasional babysitter or the more long term relationship of a nanny – moms need someone they can trust.

Extraordinary woman of the week, Candi Wingate, a mom entrepreneur herself,  has the solution for you. Her services are not just for mothers but for anyone seeking quality care for children or the elderly.

Candi shares some inspirational and valuable information about herself and her business.

1.    Shamelessly plug yourself and your business/services.

I have been a nanny, owned a nanny agency, started 3 online nanny databases, author of “100 Tips for Nannies & Families” plus am a wife and mother of 2.  So when it comes to the nanny industry, I am your expert.

I am the founder of Nannies4HireBabysitter4hire, Care4hire and a Nanny Agency.  My nanny experience actually goes way back.  I was a nanny for a family with 5 children, which included newborn twins.  After becoming a nanny and working in a nanny agency for several years, I purchased the successful Nation-Wide Nanny Placement Agency.   After finding that we needed to expand, Nannies4hire, Babysitter4hire and Care4hire was born.

Nannies4hire is one of the largest, most successful online nanny and family database serving the United States and Canada.  As part of this database, you can conveniently search full-time, part-time, temporary, summer, babysitting, live-in and live-out nannies by zip code 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

The Nannies4hire database is designed to easily assist families in finding a quality nanny for their specific needs and requirements. Registered families may search by detailed characteristics to help pinpoint the perfect nanny for their family. In addition, helpful tools are available, including sample interview questions, a sample reference form and a sample contract. Nannies4hire.com also gives you advice, tips and information that will help you and your nanny connect on a social and personal level.

Babysitters4hire and Care4hire is an online database for families and caregivers to search babysitters, housekeepers, tutors, elder/companion care, pet sitters and other miscellaneous service.   A free preview of available caregivers is available to families. Whether you need a caregiver for a few hours to a few days, you will find it at Care4hire.com. Once you are a registered member, you will be given immediate access to caregiver through email and phone.

I haven’t stopped there.  Besides relationships with Dr. Phil, Supernanny, TLC, receiving the Mom’s Choice Award and a Finalist for the Stevie Award and more growth to be announced soon.  Since 1987, we have been helping wonderful families and nannies.

2.  How long have you been in business?

We have been affiliated with the nanny business since 1987.

3. What motivated you to become an entrepreneur?

I started my career as a nanny, working for a family with five children.  I quickly learned what families need, and applied those real-life lessons to my business.  I’ve been a nanny, owned a nanny agency, started 3 online nanny databases, and wrote “100 Tips for Nannies & Families.” Plus, I’m a wife and mother of two young boys, so I know first-hand what it’s like to balance work and a family.  I believe that women can have it all, but they need help to do so!  My company provides that necessary help and support.

Since I was young, I’ve always been a motivated, outgoing self-starter.  My parents were self-employed, which motivated and inspired me to do the same.  I had a great idea for a business, and I’ve experienced tremendous growth by meeting the needs of other families like my own – who need a little extra help at home

4. What has been a defining moment in your life or an AHA moment?

We started as a nanny placement agency and saw the need to expand to Nannies4hire.com and Care4hire.com.  We wanted to service families throughout the United States and Canada and meet all their needs including nannies, babysitters, pet care, housekeepers, elder/companion care, tutors, live-in, live-out and other misc. services.

5. What has been your biggest challenge?

Our goal is to find every family the right caregiver, not just any caregiver and offer caregivers an enjoyable experience.   We thrive our business on customer service.  A good amount of our business has been built on referrals and repeat clients.

6. What has been your greatest reward?

It was a great honor for us to be named to the Inc. 500 List of Fastest Growing Companies this year.  We were also very proud to work with TLC and their hit show Jon & Kate + 8.  We were an integral part of finding nannies for the Gosselin family’s sextuplets and twins.  And we’ve formed successful ongoing relationships with the Dr. Phil Show.  In fact, Dr. Phil has repeatedly recommended us to guests on his show.

7. When things are not going your way – what keeps you Confident?

Every thing takes longer than you expect, be patient and work hard and it will come together in the end.

8. Who or what has had the strongest positive influence in your life?

My parents really inspired me.  They were self-employed and I grew up watching their hard work, dedication, creativity and tenacity.  They were there for me, supporting me when I started my business, encouraging me to pursue my dream.

9. What do you do for fun/relaxation?

In my free time I enjoy spending time with my 2 energetic boys and husband.  We enjoy going to the lake and enjoying each other.

10.  What is Number One Business Goal you plan to accomplish over the next  year?

Our goal is to make every family and nanny experience positive and rewarding.

11. In addition to your website, how else can my readers connect with you online?

They can follow us at these links:

Twitter
Facebook
Blog
Twittermoms
LinkedIn

Candi, thank you for sharing your information with my readers and providing such a valuable service for those who are in need. I wish you continued success.

Please connect with Candi Wingate at any of the links listed above.

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ten resolutions for the female entrepreneur

Posted by Adalia John on 17 January, 2010

Pit Stop Day

The benefits of using the New Year, as a gauge, for assessing where you are in comparison to where you want to be, is being trivialized. A resolution in and of itself is not a bad idea; people fail to keep their resolutions because of procrastination, lack of motivation and the biggest reason of them all, lack of  FOCUS.

A resolution is a declaration to do something.

I say, embrace Resolutions.

The beginning of the New Year is an opportune time to resolve to evolve.  Here are 10, easy to weave into your life,  resolutions for the female entrepreneur, who strives  to find balance between her business and personal life.

Family

Make a decision to maintain balance between your business, family and friends. True success is having harmony between your business and your personal life. It is important to note that balance does not mean equal time – it means some time. Web MD gives some easy tips on how to make time, even with your busy schedule.

Exercise

Your body is your vehicle and like your car it needs maintenance. However, unlike a car, you cannot turn your body in for a new one. Therefore, make a conscious and unconscious decision to make it a priority to exercise. Use your imagination to turn everyday, mundane activities into exercise. Your body will love you for it. Two female entrepreneurs at squeeze it in offer some helpful tips and resources.

Diet
I am not sure who coined the phrase “you are what you eat” but it is a true statement. Your body needs proper nutrients to keep you energized,  focused and to optimize longevity.  Entrepreneurs,  love what they are do, so much so, they forget to eat and when they do decide to eat,  it may not be healthy. I implore you, to stop discounting yourself – healthy eating is as easy as 1- 2- 3.  Nuts, shakes, protein bars, fruits and  raw vegetables are some easy choices.  For a variety of choices and recipes visit here.

Goals

For your success, written goals are a must.  Write down your S.M.A.R.T goals for your business and personal life. Revisit your goals from 2009 – what are you seeing?  It is important to have short term, long term and longer term goals. You are certainly not a failure if you have to revise your goals.  I personally recommend reviewing your goals from time to time during the year.

Time Management

One of the most valuable assets you have is your time. Maximize your potential by being efficient at managing your time. You will delegate, outsource and ask for help. You will not micro manage, nor sweat the small stuff and you will refuse to wear the “I can do it all” hat. Time Management Expert Jill Morgenstern shares some valuable insights.

Education

Knowledge is power; therefore, make a commitment to educate yourself for your own personal development, as well as for your business success. Staying informed about your line of business will help you to stand out from the noisy competitive crowd. You will give more value to your customers/clients and you will become known as the go to expert.

Organize

Organize your life, your home, your office and your desk. Sounds simple but if you are anything like me you will spend valuable time trying to find where you’ve scribbled someone’s name, phone number or other important information. Spend some time organizing and you will have more time for the important stuff.

Write it down

How many times have you said to yourself, I’ll remember? Only to be frustrated a few minutes later – at your inability to remember something you thought would be an easy recall.  Start a new habit today and write it down.

Financial

Use the service of an expert such as a CPA or accountant to check your financial health. Are you commingling your personal and business accounts? What strategies do you need to put in place for reducing your business and income taxes? How is your retirement fund? What is your income to debt ratio? These are only a few of the issues you should be discussing with your financial team. The beginning of the New Year is a good time to put your financial house in order. Here’s more detailed information from Entrepreneur on line Financial Planning 101

Pamper yourself

Yes, take some time to be with you, for a stronger mind, body and spirit connection. Women, in general, think it’s selfish to have “me” time  – maybe it less of an issue today,  than it was decades ago but I have friends who feel guilty when they have alone time. You can choose to stay at home, close the door, put up your “do not disturb” sign and read a book. You can meditate or take a long, relaxing bath. How about yoga – a stroll in the park or on the beach? You may choose to go on a retreat. What ever you decide – take some time for you. You will be more confident, focused, productive and energized. Your family and friends will see a marked difference in your personality … they will appreciate you even more.

There are numerous resolutions  you can make  for balanced living in 2010. I hope you find some value in the ten I shared with you.

Other resources:

Article: Resolution for three types of female entrepreneurs
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Thought Stimulator: One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this: To rise above the little things.
John Burroughs

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10 motivational quotes to jumpstart your new year

Posted by Adalia John on 5 January, 2010

Pit Stop Day

It’s 2010! It’s time to reset your mindset! It’s time to conquer your fears!  Do with 2010 what sculptors do with their clay and mold 2010 into the vision you have for your personal and your professional life. Its time to do this and more ~ to be triumphant in 2010.

Here are ten motivational, inspirational quotes that you can use  every day of the year. They  are guaranteed to inspire and motivate you to wake up! Take action!  Make your dreams real!

“We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.” ~  Edith Lovejoy Pierce.

“Men often become what they believe themselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I didn’t have it in the beginning.” ~ Ghandi

“One resolution I have made, and try always to keep. is this:  To rise above the little things.” ~  John Burroughs

“For last year’s words belong to last year’s languageAnd nest year’s words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning. “  ~  T.S Eliot “Little Gidding”

“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right. ” ~  Oprah Winfrey

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” ~ Jim Rohn

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” Seneca

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” ~ Unknown

“There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth…not going all the way, and not starting.” ~  Buddha

“You will never win if you never begin.” ~ Helen Rowland


It’s time to stop waiting for the wind to blow you in the right direction. Now is the right time  for you get out of your head and begin living your purpose driven life.  Allow these motivational quotes to give you a jump start for the limitless possibilities of 2010.

Other Resources

Youtube Motivational Quotes for the New Year

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