Accepting that she was not a victim – empowered Extraordinary Woman of the week, Crystal Washington Martin, to leave the corporate world behind to live her vision.  She’s a confident, savvy marketing strategist who helps businesses to have a WOW factor – with measurable results for clients/customers and profits.

Crystal was recently featured in the August edition of Black Enterprise Magazine – the Motivation Section.

Her husband Cj Martin is her #1 fan and in spite of her busy schedule, she takes time to mentor the youths in her community, to be empowered and unstoppable with confidence for their success.

Meet Crystal Washington Martin, wife, marketing strategist, mentor, and Extraordinary woman of the week.

Tell my readers about  yourself and your business.

I am a Marketing Strategist who helps professionals of all knowledge levels achieve measurable marketing results by leveraging unique strategy with technology.  My marketing firm’s website can be viewed at  Black Market Exchange and my own site can be viewed at Crystal Washington

How long have you been in business?

3 years.

What motivated you to become an entrepreneur?

Divine intervention.  I prayed one day, while still in corporate America for purpose.  I wanted to take the talent that I was using to make a large company millions of dollars and empower small business owners.  After praying, the entire vision of my business and speaking rushed into my mind.  I tried to negotiate for a smaller vision, but then I just received silence.  After that, it was just a matter of follow through.

What has been a defining moment in your life or an AHA moment?

My aha moment came when I realized that I was not a victim.  I realized that I was the co conspirator in any abuse that I have endured as an adult.  I realized that no devil, boss or crazy driver ever had the power to do anything “to” me.  This totally transformed the way that I live my life.  In fact, it enabled me to leave corporate America and start my own business.

What has been your biggest challenge?

My biggest challenge has been unlearning.  Most of what we are taught by well-meaning parents, teachers and college professors is either a form of domestication or theory not applicable in real life.  Don’t get me wrong, almost all of these individuals mean well.  However, I had to undergo a painful process of self examination to extricate all of the limiting beliefs that I had been imbued with.  In fact, I continue to go through that process and likely will for the rest of my life.  Bad beliefs will hold up anyone’s progress in business and in their personal life.  As I shed these bad beliefs, I find that I am connected to more and more wonderful people, offered more opportunities and experience greater profits.

What has been your greatest reward?

My greatest reward has been flexibility.  While owning a business is not for the faint of heart, it does allow me to live life on my own terms.  I can work in the wee hours of the night or take a Tuesday off to go to the movies with my husband who is also a business owner.  I also have the ability to raise capital by offering deals or specials.  This is not something that I could have done in corporate America.

When things are not going your way – what keeps you confident?

I never consider things not going my way.  That implies that something is wrong or bad.  Life is life.  I tell people that in order to drive from Texas to California via the shortest route, you will go through desert.  The desert is not bad or some type of punishment.  It is simply the quickest way to get there.  I look at life the same way.  I don’t have to judge everything that is going on, I only need to stay focused on my end destination and know that I am traveling the best route.

Who or what has had the strongest positive influence in your life?

That is a really difficult question.  There have been so many people.  However, if I had to chose just one, I would say my husband.  He has always encouraged me in everything that I have ever wanted to do.  He started his own business three years ago.  A few months later, I started mine.  He gives me the gift of acceptance.  He doesn’t blink an eye if I want to go to a book reading, study with Buddhist monks or completely change my diet to cut out all meat- which I did, by the way.  No matter what, he encourages me.

How do you give back to your community?

I’m a mentor with Big Brothers Big Sisters of Houston and sit on the board of a few organizations that are doing wonderful things for the community including Inprint and Rice University’s Center for the Study of Women, Gender, and Sexuality.  I also speak at student events in order to empower them to become business owners.

What do you do on a regular basis for a healthy/strong mind, body and spirit connections.

I meditate, pray, see a healer/therapist monthly and always explore ways to stay grounded in my spirit.  I often visit the Chung Tai Zen Center to learn from Buddhist monks or visit the Ruah Center to meditate with the Sisters of the Incarnate Word.  Most of all, I allow my spirit free expression.

From your experience – share five things that a female entrepreneur  needs to do to have a successful business?

1. Strong network- access and opportunities are all in who you know and the quality of relationships you cultivate.
2. Solid brand- know who you are, what you offer and who you are offering it to at all times.
3. Open mind- things will change and opportunities may come from the least expected sources.  Be open to grow and change in order to remain relevant.
4. Knowledge of worth- no one will value you more than you value yourself.  As women, it is important that we not sell ourselves short financially.
5. A library card/ Internet access- A strong business owner is always studying and always learning.

Share with us a little know fact about you.

I hunger for new experiences the same way that others desire food.  I literally have travel cravings or experience longings.

Is there something you want to share that was not asked?

I can’t think of anything.

Crystal,  thank you for sharing your information with my readers.

I wish you continued success.  Stay confident and be empowered.

You can connect with Crystal at:

Facebook

Twitter

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To your exponential success!

adalia@claimyourconfidencenow.com

Are you or someone you know in a toxic relationship? I believe that lack of confidence and low self esteem issues attract toxic relationships.

Recently,  one of my clients ended a toxic, dead end relationship.

She ended it by using pepper spray on her boyfriend - he attempted to hold her hostage by grabbing her cell phone and blocking the exist from his room. This was not the first time he did this – the first time,  she had her cell phone and called someone for help.

For almost a year she refused to see the toxicity of this relationship and made excuses for her boyfriend’s unpredictable, possessive, infantile, aggressive, controlling behavior.

She swears that she stayed because she loved him. Nothing could be further from the truth. This is the voice of a woman who is insecure, lacks self confidence and over all her self esteem is low.

She allowed this toxic relationship to begin and continue because she did not love herself and did not believe she was worthy or deserving of anything better.

Women from all walks of life enter into and continue toxic relationships.  Some of these women feel ashamed and find it difficult to admit they are in such a relationship.  Some  areas of their lives could be called “perfect.” They may be running a business, the CEO of a company, educated, smart and savvy. They have a great family and wonderful and supportive friends.

If you are confused as to whether your relationship is toxic or not – here are 30 signs of a toxic relationship and there are many more.

1. You’ve known him for a few days and he speaks ill of his mother
2. He says you are beautiful every minute of the day.
3. He questions your where a bouts.
4. He does not like any of your friends.
5. He never calls his mom.
6. He attempts to belittle you with words.
7. He has lost interest in his goals and just wants to be around you.
8. He cries like a baby when you have a misunderstanding.
9. He punches a hole in the wall because he can’t have his way.
10. He will not give you room to breathe.
11. He feels entitled to go every where with you and your friends.
12. He calls you names.
13. He wants to know you are speaking to on the phone.
14. He demands to see you text messages.
15. He shows up unexpectedly when you are out because he feels you need protection
16. He showers you with gifts he really can’t afford.
17. He feels you should be obligated because he has done so much for you.
18. He is jealous because someone said “hello” to you.
19. He tries to physically control you.
20. He makes a scene in public.
21. He makes a scene in front of your friends.
22. He is uncompromising.
23. You are his world
    
24. He puts you on a pedestal
25. You are always crying, feeling lost and confused in your relationship.
26. The negatives of your relationship far outweigh the positives.
27. He accuses you time and time again of not loving him.
28. You are a mom and he is jealous of the time you spend with your children.
29. He has a habit of blocking the door to keep you from leaving.
30. He threatens to kill himself if you leave.

If you are in a toxic relationship, I implore you - find the confidence to run,  not walk, from this relationship. It’s only going to get worse.

Other resources:

How to Handle Toxic Relationships
Characteristics of a Toxic Relationship
Is Your Relationship Pain Clean or Dirty
Energy Healing

Watch these videos

Release yourself from toxic relationships

8 Toxic relationships to avoid

Saying good bye to toxic friends

Thanks so much for stopping by my blog. Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section – link is at the top of  post -  have you or someone you know ever experienced a toxic relationship? Please share. Like this article? Share it  with the world by clicking one of the Social Media buttons below.  If you would like to get personal delivery of each post, please fill in your info. in the RSS feed in the upper right hand corner.

To your continued success filled with positive nurturing relationships.

adalia@claimyourconfidencenow.com

What does Confidence  and beauty have to do with the Twilight Zone? It’s fascinating read on.

There was an episode of Twilight Zone that even today brings a smile to my face…the message is timeless. It was about a woman who was not accepted by the people in her world . The reason why she was not accepted had something to do with her face.  Exactly what was wrong with her face,  remained a mystery, until the end.

This is a classic and thought stimulating episode of the Twilight Zone. All of the characters faces were  in the shadows…except for the woman… she was in the hospital bed, her face and head were covered with a bandage.

She was crying buckets of tears  – she wanted to have a beautiful face.  She wanted to be accepted.  She wanted to have freedom of movement – her freedom was restricted because of her face.  She recalled, in heart felt agony,  a time when a little girl ran from her because of her  face.  Her confidence was not just low, it was dormant and her self esteem was shot.

Her value was based solely on her face…a tragedy in any dimension.

She had several unsuccessful operations to make her face “normal.”  She was in the hospital – attempting operation eleven.  She  really wanted to be BEAUTIFUL. But more than that, the law demanded that her face be molded to fit a particular standard -  what is the standard?  The audience was held in a suspenseful grip.

This was her final chance to be beautiful and acceptable – if this operation did not work -  the doctor told her she had to leave town.  She was not welcome.  She was an outcast.  She had to GO.

I felt this woman’s pain. Her suffering…as far as I could see every part of her body was  “normal.” I wondered to myself with anxious anticipation…what could be wrong with her face?

The doctor and nurses in the hospital,  with their faces in the shadow, made brutal statements:

• Why does she want to live?
• Some people will do anything to live.
• Her face is a lump of flesh.

When I watched this show for the first time – I was riveted, I could not bear the suspense of not knowing.  At the end of the show…leave it to Rod Serling, to clobber you with a life lesson.

When her bandage was removed, the doctor and nurses turned away with disgust and horror. Oh no, she looked the same. The woman wailed like a banshee, she sobbed and sobbed some more and finally her face was revealed – this unhappy woman had a face that by today’s standard would be called “beautiful.”

But not in this world – in this world she was considered the out cast.  She was not welcomed – she did not fit in.  As a matter of fact they thought she was downright ugly. By law, they had to get rid of her.  Anyone, who had a face like Serling’s character, had to live in another isolated town.

She was judged by one thing and one thing only, her face. It did not matter that in essence, she was their equal. It did not matter that she had the same complexion. It did not matter that she was in pain. They did not care that she had value.  They did not care about her suffering.  She had to go…her face was grotesque and it did not fit in with the norm.

The details for this show are somewhat foggy…I watched it several years ago.  But the message was clear – beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You should not depend on outward validation to give you value.  The definition of beauty changes – one day your look is in and another day your look is out

You are not an inanimate object -

You can’t change your facial structure on a whim (I know some try).  Your looks does not define you.  It’s not your essence or who you are at the core. When you have self confidence – your beauty is defined by YOU.

This woman did not want to be beautiful for the sake of being beautiful – she wanted to have freedom. The freedom to be outdoors and enjoy nature. Her movements were restricted because she was not good enough.

In today’s world -  you have the freedom of choice and yes, acceptance by others is a wonderful thing. However, if you don’t get it – your world should not crumble. Unlike the Twilight Zone character -  no one can lawfully banish you because they do not like your appearance.

However, on a daily basis, I see so many trying to fit in – losing their identity – their authenticity. In a land of freedom, where you are free to be…one would think, this would be a non issue.

Confidence is timeless and when you have confidence in yourself…even though you may respect others people’s opinion…it easy for you to remain authentic and keep on loving you.

By the way, the doctor and the nurses – had faces that were distorted and pig like – by today’s standard – they would be the ugly ones.

Other Resources:
Inner Beauty That Leads To True Attraction
10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence
Wikipedia – Confidence
Beauty Secrets – Confidence
Tips
Confidence Quotes

Thought Stimulator: Imagination… its limits are only those of the mind itself. ~ Rod Serling

Are You a fan of the Twilight Zone?  Do you think the woman had choices? Do you think she should have told them to get lost – that she loved her face and she would much rather leave than try to fit in. Share your thoughts and I have a shameless request – could you please share this with your friends.

To your limitless success!

adalia@claimyourconfidencenow.com

Guest post courtesy of Michelle Vasquez of True Love Relationship Coaching

If you are a single woman who wants to find true love, you may be getting in your own way with your thoughts and attitudes. You may be allowing your thoughts to undermine your confidence when it comes to dating. The way you think leads to how you feel. How you feel leads to what actions you decide to take. These actions get certain results, but probably not the results you are hoping for. If you want to change this cycle, you have to start with your thoughts.

I call these thoughts Love Stoppers. Love Stoppers are limiting beliefs that keep you from finding and keeping love. They are the viruses that infect your mind, making all of your positive affirmations ineffective until you get serious and make the decision to get rid of them.

Here are five Love Stoppers that get in the way when you are looking for your dream man and undermine your confidence when you are dating:

1. I am not good enough

Most people believe this at some time in their lives. To begin with, it is important to see yourself more realistically. For example, you may not be good enough at the piano to be a concert pianist, but are you good enough to entertain yourself and play music that you enjoy?

Focus instead on your strengths. What are you good at? What is it about you that is extraordinary? Ask trusted friends and family to give you a clue about this. Trust me; you are good enough to find someone to love. The trick is to begin to believe it yourself.

2. I will get hurt if I love someone

Yes, you will. No one can guarantee you that he will never hurt you. You want to look for someone who is sincere and ethical. This man will never willingly put you in danger. Being that we are all human and petty at times, we will say things that hurt our loved ones and we will mean them. The man you love will hurt you with his words. You will do this too. Will the hurt be unforgivable? Hopefully not. Pain and joy are part of life.

3. I will get rejected if I put myself out there

Most likely you will. However, if you spend all your time worrying about this, you will begin to lose your confidence about dating. Instead of worrying about rejection, which is going to happen, prepare yourself for it. Rejection is nothing more than feedback. Not every man is going to like you. That’s just a fact. So when a man doesn’t like you, is it about you? Is it just because there is no chemistry? Is he a bad judge of character? Or maybe he did you a favor by passing you by.

4. There is no one out there for me

If you believe this, you are going to have to change your tune or decide to be content being single. You have given up before you started. How can you find love (and have the confidence to go out dating) when you are telling yourself that it is impossible?

How can it be possible that out of all the people in the world, there is no one for you? Give yourself the gift of shifting this love stopper to “I haven’t yet found the one for me.” As you begin to accept this shift, you can go farther with “the one for me is out there and I am attracting him now.”

5. Men my age only want younger women

This is both true and false. There are some men who prefer younger women. There are many men your age who prefer dating within their own age range. Those men who only want younger women are not the right ones for you. The right man for you is someone who connects with you on many different levels and is happy to date a woman in his same age range.

These are my five love stoppers that get in your way when seeking your ideal man. As you can see, holding onto them holds you back. Decide to let go of these love stoppers and transform your thoughts into ones that allow you to date with confidence and attract a man of quality!

Michelle E. Vasquez, MS, LPC, helps single women over 40 find, attract, and keep the love of their lives by teaching them how to understand what they require to create a happy, successful relationship. She has a growing specialty in helping widows find love again after loss. Get her free report, “Why am I Still Single and What Can I Do About”

Other Resources:
How to build your dating confidence
Get fit and improve your dating prospects
Video:

Thought Stimulator: Let your love be like the misty rain, coming softly but flooding the river  ~ Malagasy Proverb

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To your continued success with love and all that you desire.
Adalia@claimyourconfidencenw.com

Hypnosis is a very relaxed and focused state of mind. The conscious mind is quietened and the sub conscious mind becomes dominant. This is similar to what happens when you fall asleep but you are not asleep and you can control the information you feed to your subconscious mind. This is what makes hypnosis such a powerful tool for change.  In this relaxed focused state, the subconscious mind is accessible and very receptive to being reprogrammed for change.

For many years hypnosis was not accepted by popular culture…do you remember when a chiropractor’s service was called junk? It was not that long ago that hypnosis was classified as such. Even though hypnosis  is now widely accepted, many myths still remain.

Here are four of those myths:

Myth #1

You can be hypnotized to do something against your will.

You are always in control and will not do anything you do not want to do and you will not do anything that goes against your beliefs or core values.

Myth #2

You can get stuck in hypnosis -

You cannot be stuck in hypnosis. Some people will go more deeply into hypnosis than others but this does not mean you are going to be stuck.You can open your eyes and become alert and aware of your surroundings…it is your decision. If you are overly stressed or tired you may fall asleep during a hypnosis session. I use hypnosis to fall asleep and so do some of my clients. It can be tempting to stay in hypnosis because of  that blissful, relaxing feeling but it is your choice to stay or to be come alert.

Myth # 3 -

I cannot be hypnotized

Everyone can be hypnotized. Hypnosis is a very familiar state and we go in and out of hypnosis several times per day. It’s like that feeling you experience when you become absorbed by a book or movie. Have you ever driven some place and not consciously aware of how you got there?  That my friend is hypnosis. This is why some believe they have not been hypnotized. They expect something different, not a relaxed, trans like familiar feeling.

Myth #4

I should not be able to hear anything.

Hypnosis is not sleep. It is a relaxed, focused state that facilitates change on a subconscious level.  Verbal communication is necessary for your subconscious mind to respond to hypnosis. This communication can come from you,  tapes, or someone else.

Other resources: This is a hypnotic, relaxing sound of the rain. I personally, love to listen to the rain. enjoy.

Thought Stimulator: The mind is everything. What you think you become. ~ Buddha

What are some of the myths you have heard about hypnosis. Please add them to the list in the comment section that is at the top of the post.

My friend and confidante suggested that I should create a fan page on Facebook. A fan page, why in the world would I need a fan page?  I asked in amazement.

I decided to do some research – here are  four reasons that has influenced me to say yes, to a Facebook Fan Page.

1.     Unlimited connections

Unlike your personal profile, there is no limit as to how many fans you can have. Think about that for a second, you can grow your fan base to a million or more. Why not dream big?

You can message all of your fans at the same time. A welcome change from your personal profile, where Facebook only allows you to send a message to 20 friends at the same time.

2.     Building client/customer relationship is easier.

This is one of my favorites – you can connect with your fans without running the risk of annoying someone with your posts regarding your business. Your fans can interact with your site by posting videos, photos and asking questions. With an on going conversation, you can build stronger and longer lasting relationships. This will increase the odds of your fans returning to your fan page again and again.

3.     Non Facebook Members can view your fan page

Anyone who is not a member of Facebook can visit your fan page. They can find you through a link on your website, blog, newsletter or search engines. They will be given the option of becoming your fan and joining Facebook.

4.  Special offers

You can create contests and have special offers and discounts for just your fans.

Conclusion:

I am obviously not an expert in this department. However, a Facebook Fan Page is an additional marketing tool that should not be overlooked Corporations such as Honda, Starbucks and Victoria Secret have their own fan pages and they look very much like websites.

There are many other important reasons to have a Fan page on Facebook. These four made me say yes, to a fan page on Facebook.

Other Resources:

3 reasons your business needs a facebook fan page.
6 reasons why you need a facebook an page
12 reasons you need facebook fan page
Five elements of a successful Fan Page
How to create the perfect Facebook fan page

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Pit Stop Day

There are those amongst us that no matter what’s going on in their lives , will see something positive to uplift and move them forward. My EXTRAordinary woman of the week, Nancy Mura, is such a person. When life gave her lemons she made sweet lemonade. Nancy is not just a survivor, she THRIVES. She is the author of a magnificent  children’s book “Willie Whistle” – A Name for Puppy.

Read her story and I dare you not to be inspired.

EXTRAordinary woman of the week Nancy Mura

I was born and raised in Rochester, New York.

My mother raised my sister and me.  She was a wonderful dedicated person who worked long hours to provide for us. She died in 2000 at the age of ninety one years old. I dearly miss her and enjoyed the last years we spent together.

She had a very difficult life, but she never let that interfere with her love for both my sister and me.  Laughter was always in our daily lives.  There was always food on the table and the doors to our home were open to friends and family.

Included in our family were several furry friends, which included three dogs and two cats. They brought much joy into our lives with their unconditional love and funny escapades.

There are so many wonderful memories that I have of my family. We spent so many happy days together and I will always cherish that love we had for each other.

All the encouragement, loving support from my husband, mother and sister over the years gave me the strength to meet all the challenges that would occur in my life.

In May of 1986 when my husband had quadruple bypass surgery I quit my job to stay home and take care of him.  Then the following January, 1987 my sister was told that her cancer had returned and it was terminal.

In February of 1987 a lump appeared on the left side of my face.  A biopsy was performed and the results showed that I had a parotid tumor and should be surgical removed.

Little did I know that this was just the beginning of a continuing re-occurrences of the tumors from 1992 thru 1996 and extensive surgeries performed on the left side of my face which would include dis-figuration.

After the last surgery in 1996 the result showed the tumors were malignant.  The diagnosis was carcinoma/explemorphic adenoma.

Radical radiation was performed twice a day to the area over an eight week period. This eventually caused me to have some loss of hearing in the left ear and loss of the saliva gland. Cataract surgery was performed on the left eye and a gold weight inserted in the left eye area so the eyelid could close.

Between 1998 and 1999 reconstruction surgery was performed on my face to make me look presentable.

From 1987 through 2000 I lost my whole family, which included my husband, mother and sister.

In 2002 after a CT scan was performed and the results showed the tumors had returned and were now living in my lungs and called carcinoma explemorphic adenoma a lung cancer which showed fifty nodules in both lungs.

Chemotherapy was performed without success.  In February 2003, I made arrangements to go to the Mayo clinic in Rochester Minnesota for a second opinion.  The oncologist assigned to me reviewed my case and said that chemotherapy would not be effective on this particular tumor.  He recommended that the medication Gleevec be taken.

Up until 2007 I was on the Gleevec medication.  After a CT scan was performed in 2007 it showed that the tumors had grown and my oncologist recommended I take another drug called Sutent which I have been taking for the last two years with success.

I have been told many times by my doctors that my disease is very rare, due to the parotid tumors metastasizing to my lungs; they do not know of any others cases like mine.

In 2007 my story was included in Preferred Care Gold, (now called MVP) Health Care Literary collection.

I have been retired since 2003. I am a volunteer for the Red Cross and was involved with “The Kids Are Us” program, which involved the use of puppets.  The puppets were a learning tool for students within the elementary schools through out the Rochester, NY area.  The puppets that were involved in this program had different disabilities; Cerebral Palsy, Blindness, Learning disability and Down syndrome.  Unfortunately, due to lack of funding this program has been discontinued. But, I am still involved with the Red Cross blood drive.

I am now an author.  While I was going through chemotherapy in 2003, to keep my mind occupied, and for therapeutic value, I decided to write a story.  It would be fictional and something I hoped that children, adults and seniors would enjoy.  It involved animals who have different personalities.    So I wrote this story about a puppy named “Willie Whistle” who is abandoned at a shelter which is owned by a white Persian cat named Marta May Paws.  It tells of the many different friends he meets who live at the shelter and how they help to raise him, and of all his adventures throughout his growing up years.   People who have read the story have laughed at all the lovable characters, and enjoyed reading it.

The Willie Whistle series of books volume one and two are now available on nancymura.blogspot.com. Also, anyone can read Nancy’ story on this site.  Mindy Schwartz who is my project manager can also be contacted by e-mail mssphotography@aol.com for purchase of my books.

Right now I am in the process of co-writing a couple of children’s books. Along with Taryn Simpson who is an award-winning novelist, ghostwriter and screenwriter. The two books we are writing are called the Table and Chair and Rosie and Baby.

People have asked me over the years if I have been angry about what has happened to me.  I look at them and say, sure there are times that I feel down, but then I think of so many other people who have worst diseases then I have. There are those who are disabled, can’t see, walk or talk. I have never said “why me.”  I am very fortunate to be here.   I think of life as an adventure.  Who knows what is over the next mountain.  One should enjoy life, be happy. Be thankful for the family and wonderful friends that are part of your life and always pay forward in helping others.  Do not look backwards, and have great faith in God.

Purchase her book here

Nancy, thanks for sharing your inspirational life experiences.  – Adalia

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Are you fired up for your business and personal life?

You know you are FIRED UP if you:

1. Awaken in the morning filled with joy and enthusiasm for the day ahead.
2. Smile as you greet the morn.
3. Eat breakfast.
4. Have your daily to do list.
5. Feed your mind positive self chatter.
6. Feel passionate and purposeful.
7. Have a vision for your successful life.
8. Take action for your goals.
9. Embrace your fears.
10. Love and allow you to be loved
11. Take time to relax and unwind.
12. Pay it forward
13. Show gratitude

You know you are fired up when you:

Confidently and courageously take risks to make your dreams a reality.

Are you fired up or have you lost your enthusiasm for doing the things that will create your successful life.  Are you tired of trying? Are you ready to give up?

You know you are not FIRED UP if you:

Awaken in the morning and wish you did not have to get up

Look in the mirror and say “yuck.”

Refuse to put a smile on your face.

Are overwhelmed.

Skip breakfast.

Keep second guessing yourself.

Play the blame game.

Feed your mind negative self chatter.

Do not appreciate the small things in life.

Are angry and frustrated.

Have lost that loving feeling.

Have lost the passion for your purpose driven life.

Do you want to get FIRED UP? Do you want to re ignite your passion for your dreams?

You can get fired up by:

1. Journaling
2. Meditating
3. Joining a master mind group
4. Hiring a coach
5. Finding a mentor.
6. Exploring the self help community – there’s an endless supply of tools to assist you.

It’s time to get FIRED UP for your success.

Other resources:

Fired up for life
Fired up now
Fired up motivation

Are You Fired Up by Anne Whiting

Thought Stimulator:  Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion, you must set yourself on fire first. ~  Reggie Leach
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You can contact me at adalia@claimyourconfidencenow.com

Even though the women of today are making more money, many lack the confidence to take charge of their financial health. How is your financial health? Is your financial house in order? Do you have confidence in your financial future?

Anne Naylor – Personal motivation consultant and author – wrote an empowering article that could be helpful to you.

“6 Tips For Facing Your Finances With Confidence”

Dealing with money issues is not easy. Families fall out over money. Your sense of status, place in life and well-being may have come to depend upon a certain level of income and expenditure. Expectations dashed, disappointment and financial loss can make for deep-seated misery.

I am not an economist — my sister is — but I still have to deal with money on a daily basis. We all do, unless we have chosen to renounce cash and found other methods of survival, which some have done quite successfully.

Listening to an investment counselor recently, I heard him say that the days of the “borrow to spend” mentality are no longer the workable option they had become. Sooner or later, the credit runs out. It is no fun when it does.

A mood of blaming and complaining is very understandable. You may feel like a helpless infant in a grown up world when it comes to the economy. However, blaming and complaining about the state of the economy, and those responsible for it, renders you more stuck and prepares you for nothing better, other than more complaining and blaming. This frame of mind does not help you to deal with your personal finances, fit and ready to meet the world as it now is.

The origin of the word “confidence” literally means “have full trust.” Here are some of the dictionary definitions for confidence.

• The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust

• The state of feeling certain about the truth of something

• A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities

In times of economic uncertainty, I have noticed that there are always those who are managing their personal finances well. What is possible for some is possible for many more. Read rest of the article here

Other Resources:

Women’s Money Corner

Yes to Financial Fitness

Women & money owning the power to control your destiny

Thought Stimulator: Budget: a mathematical confirmation of your suspicions.  ~A.A. Latimer

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Pit Stop Day

Mothers ( mom entrepreneurs or those working 9 to 5)  have numerous challenges as they attempt to juggle their personal and professional lives. One of the most important and critical issue – is the issue of quality childcare.  Whether it’s the occasional babysitter or the more long term relationship of a nanny – moms need someone they can trust.

Extraordinary woman of the week, Candi Wingate, a mom entrepreneur herself,  has the solution for you. Her services are not just for mothers but for anyone seeking quality care for children or the elderly.

Candi shares some inspirational and valuable information about herself and her business.

1.    Shamelessly plug yourself and your business/services.

I have been a nanny, owned a nanny agency, started 3 online nanny databases, author of “100 Tips for Nannies & Families” plus am a wife and mother of 2.  So when it comes to the nanny industry, I am your expert.

I am the founder of Nannies4Hire,  Babysitter4hire, Care4hire and a Nanny Agency.  My nanny experience actually goes way back.  I was a nanny for a family with 5 children, which included newborn twins.  After becoming a nanny and working in a nanny agency for several years, I purchased the successful Nation-Wide Nanny Placement Agency.   After finding that we needed to expand, Nannies4hire, Babysitter4hire and Care4hire was born.

Nannies4hire is one of the largest, most successful online nanny and family database serving the United States and Canada.  As part of this database, you can conveniently search full-time, part-time, temporary, summer, babysitting, live-in and live-out nannies by zip code 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

The Nannies4hire database is designed to easily assist families in finding a quality nanny for their specific needs and requirements. Registered families may search by detailed characteristics to help pinpoint the perfect nanny for their family. In addition, helpful tools are available, including sample interview questions, a sample reference form and a sample contract. Nannies4hire.com also gives you advice, tips and information that will help you and your nanny connect on a social and personal level.

Babysitters4hire and Care4hire is an online database for families and caregivers to search babysitters, housekeepers, tutors, elder/companion care, pet sitters and other miscellaneous service.   A free preview of available caregivers is available to families. Whether you need a caregiver for a few hours to a few days, you will find it at Care4hire.com. Once you are a registered member, you will be given immediate access to caregiver through email and phone.

I haven’t stopped there.  Besides relationships with Dr. Phil, Supernanny, TLC, receiving the Mom’s Choice Award and a Finalist for the Stevie Award and more growth to be announced soon.  Since 1987, we have been helping wonderful families and nannies.

2.  How long have you been in business?

We have been affiliated with the nanny business since 1987.

3. What motivated you to become an entrepreneur?

I started my career as a nanny, working for a family with five children.  I quickly learned what families need, and applied those real-life lessons to my business.  I’ve been a nanny, owned a nanny agency, started 3 online nanny databases, and wrote “100 Tips for Nannies & Families.” Plus, I’m a wife and mother of two young boys, so I know first-hand what it’s like to balance work and a family.  I believe that women can have it all, but they need help to do so!  My company provides that necessary help and support.

Since I was young, I’ve always been a motivated, outgoing self-starter.  My parents were self-employed, which motivated and inspired me to do the same.  I had a great idea for a business, and I’ve experienced tremendous growth by meeting the needs of other families like my own – who need a little extra help at home

4. What has been a defining moment in your life or an AHA moment?

We started as a nanny placement agency and saw the need to expand to Nannies4hire.com and Care4hire.com.  We wanted to service families throughout the United States and Canada and meet all their needs including nannies, babysitters, pet care, housekeepers, elder/companion care, tutors, live-in, live-out and other misc. services.

5. What has been your biggest challenge?

Our goal is to find every family the right caregiver, not just any caregiver and offer caregivers an enjoyable experience.   We thrive our business on customer service.  A good amount of our business has been built on referrals and repeat clients.

6. What has been your greatest reward?

It was a great honor for us to be named to the Inc. 500 List of Fastest Growing Companies this year.  We were also very proud to work with TLC and their hit show Jon & Kate + 8.  We were an integral part of finding nannies for the Gosselin family’s sextuplets and twins.  And we’ve formed successful ongoing relationships with the Dr. Phil Show.  In fact, Dr. Phil has repeatedly recommended us to guests on his show.

7. When things are not going your way – what keeps you Confident?

Every thing takes longer than you expect, be patient and work hard and it will come together in the end.

8. Who or what has had the strongest positive influence in your life?

My parents really inspired me.  They were self-employed and I grew up watching their hard work, dedication, creativity and tenacity.  They were there for me, supporting me when I started my business, encouraging me to pursue my dream.

9. What do you do for fun/relaxation?

In my free time I enjoy spending time with my 2 energetic boys and husband.  We enjoy going to the lake and enjoying each other.

10.  What is Number One Business Goal you plan to accomplish over the next  year?

Our goal is to make every family and nanny experience positive and rewarding.

11. In addition to your website, how else can my readers connect with you online?

They can follow us at these links:

Twitter
Facebook
Blog
Twittermoms
LinkedIn

Candi, thank you for sharing your information with my readers and providing such a valuable service for those who are in need. I wish you continued success.

Please connect with Candi Wingate at any of the links listed above.

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