Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. ~ Lucille Ball


One of my passions is helping women to have rock solid confidence. Being confident and having healthy self-esteem are linked to loving yourself unconditionally.

Do you find it difficult to love yourself because of your perceived flaws or weaknesses?

Do you find it difficult to love yourself unconditionally because you’re looking at yourself through the eyes of someone else?

Do you find it difficult to love yourself when you compare yourself to others and you never quite measure up?

My friend Joanna Lindenbaum, of Soulful Coaching for Busy Women, is launching her “I Love Myself Project, a FREE virtual event, developed for women to love themselves unconditionally, on May 22, 2012, from 9 a. m. – 4 p. m. Eastern Time.

For the first 10 minutes of each hour you will have the opportunity to call in and participate in exercises, rituals, and visualizations that will you connect to your love for yourself.

This is going to be an epic event.

You can sign up for the event at: I love myself project.

If you find it difficult to love yourself, it will be difficult, if not impossible, for you to find someone to love you. Lack of self-love keeps you from experiencing the happiness and success you’re entitled to as a child of the Universe/God.

If you’re wondering how to love yourself unconditionally, when you really don’t feel good about yourself, here are 20 ways to help you start the process.

New habits take time.

You may revert to the old way of not loving yourself. Immediately forgive yourself for going backwards, and do something right away to keep moving forward.

21 ways to love yourself unconditionally

self- awareness. Decide today to make loving yourself a powerful new habit.

You are perfect.  Fall in love with you. Pay attention to what makes you special and unique. Grab a pen and paper and write down 101 things you love about yourself.

The mirror is your friend. Look into a mirror, stare into your eyes, and connect to your soul. Feel your essence. Accept that you’re special and unique. Become vulnerable to yourself. Smile! Blow yourself a kiss and say “I love you.” Don’t be afraid, this isn’t narcissism.

Linger after a shower or a bath. Take time appreciate your body. From the top of your head down to your toes, even your perceived flaws. Allow yourself to be mesmerized by your magnificence. If this is difficult, keep doing it, and one day you’ll begin to appreciate all of you.

Nurture your body. Your body is your home in this physical world. When you love yourself, you’ll take care of your body – exercise, drink water, eat breakfast, eat nutritious meals, check ups etc.

Nurture your spirit. You can’t love yourself without loving your spirit. Take time to connect to your spirit – yoga, meditating, praying, chanting, dancing or something else.

Feed your mind. Explore ways to feed your mind – reading, having enlightening conversations, listening to music, going to the theater, sitting quietly, or something else.

Build your confidence. Do something you’re afraid to do. Try new foods. Take a different way home. Challenge yourself. Perfect your potential. My blog has several posts about confidence building you may want to explore.

Self esteem. Esteem yourself. Focus on your brilliance and master them. Embrace your perceived flaws.

Stop calling yourself names. Each time you call yourself a name, make a conscious decision (until it becomes a habit) to pause and reflect on something positive you could say in its place.

Stand Firm. Loving yourself means you’ll be OK when you’re not part of the crowd. Hold unto your beliefs until YOU decide to let go or replace them. Don’t compromise your core values to fit in.

Speak your truth. Tell others how you feel. Be assertive not aggressive.

Be authentic. Make a conscious decision to be YOU. Remove the masks. If others don’t like it, it’s their problem not yours.

Let go of toxic energy. Forgive those who have done you wrong. (real and imagined)

Raise your vibration. Forgive yourself for the things you’ve done that in hindsight you now believe you shouldn’t have done. Forgive yourself for the things you didn’t do that you now believe you should have done.

Be humble. Apologize to those you’ve treated badly.

What you give comes back to you. Become comfortable saying the words “I love you.” If you’re not, practice, you’ll get there.

It’s a wrap

Loving yourself unconditionally is part of the foundation upon which your successful life is built.  It makes it easy for you to accept that you’re a beautiful soul, worthy of healthy nurturing relationships. A love that’s supreme. And abundance in all areas of you life.

When you feel good about yourself, you’ll be kind and non-judgmental because you want others to feel the same way too.

When you can say “I love myself” and mean it, it will be easier for you to take action for your wildest dreams.

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.                       ~ Barbara De Angelis

Your Turn

Was there ever time you didn’t love yourself? If so, what did you do about it.

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