If you’re struggling to buy gifts this season, for one reason or another – here’s a gift that’s easy to find … its priceless, and one of the most powerful gifts of all time … it is the gift of FORGIVENESS.
Forgive yourself, forgive others, and feel the power of forgiveness.
When you don’t forgive, you’re keeping that toxic person or the unhappy experience in your life … with the invisible thread of thought communication. By not forgiving, you are giving up your power to the experience.
Is this what you want? No, but that is the end result.
Forgiveness is an empowering decision to control your emotional state and take back your power. It has long term positive effects mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Forgiving does not mean you’re condoning the act. Far from it – forgiveness is a selfish act; it’s more beneficial for you, the forgiver, than the forgiven. This idea of condoning, maybe, one of the reasons why some will not forgive.
Negative emotions affect your well being
Holding on to: grudges, jealousy, resentments and other negative emotions wreck havoc on your immune system. Cortisol and adrenaline, two hormones meant to protect us, become toxic from over use.
Bruce McEwen, PhD, director of the neuroendocrinology lab at Rockefeller University in New York City says cortisol wears down the brain, leading to cell atrophy and memory loss. It also raises blood pressure and blood sugar, hardens arteries and leads to heart disease.
Health Benefits of Forgiveness
Research has show that letting go of toxic emotions leads to: reduced stress, better anger management, lessens back pain, reduces relapses of women battling substance abuse, and overall improved health
Fred Luskin, PhD, director of Stanford University’s Forgiveness Project and author of Forgive for Good -Through his studies has found that letting go of a grudge can slash one’s stress level by up to 50 percent. Volunteers in his studies also have shown improvements in energy, mood, sleep quality and overall physical vitality.
Forgiveness is an amazing gift. Grab a pen and paper – create three columns: write down the names of the people who have done you wrong – even if they have passed on – in one column and what they did in the next column. Are you holding on to any guilt or self blame? If yes, add your name and the reason for your guilty feelings.
Give yourself permission to let go and forgive yourself and all the people on the lists.
Find a quiet place and close your eyes:
Repeat silently to you:
I give myself permission to forgive me for the things I did, that I should not have done. For the things I did not do, that I should have done.
Repeat each name on the list separately, followed by these words “I forgive you for the pain you’ve caused me, now, and forever.
Allow yourself to feel the emotion of your forgiveness. Keep repeating this exercise, until you feel the forgiveness.
In your mind’s eyes, see yourself writing the words “I forgive you,” next to the names on the list and when you’re finished … open your eyes and do what you just imagined … write the words “I forgive you” next to the names, including yours.
Close your eyes and take a moment to savor the gift of forgiveness..
Feel the freedom.
- Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the armor of steel you’ve wrapped around your heart.
- Forgiveness allows you to feel the higher vibratonal emotions: love, peace, happiness, and compassion.
- Forgiveness gives you wings to soar.
- Forgiveness brings healthy relationships .
- Forgiveness allows you to grow.
- Forgiveness increases your confidence.
- Forgiveness brings forth wisdom.
- Forgiveness is the priceless gift from You to You.
No longer will you define your life by your negative experience … real or imagined.
You are amazing!
Who do you need to forgive? How has this experience affected your life?
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To your magnificence!